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From Uniform to Uniform: The Book is Out!

From Uniform to Uniform, transition, job hunting, job market, career changeThe Book Has Been Released!


From Uniform to Uniform:

Transitioning from the Military to the Civilian Job Market

hit the market. You can find it on AMAZON.COM in paperback or Kindle editions. If you or someone you know is leaving the service or just looking to change careers, this easy to read and understand guide will help them make the transition. It provides tips and exercises to figure out what career path you really want to take next, not what someone tells you to fit into. It helps you find your purpose in life and how to transform that purpose into a career you can enjoy. From Uniform to Uniform takes you through the résumé writing process, tells you what you need to know about interviews and how to negotiate beyond your salary to take advantage of what you really want and need. 


From Uniform to Uniform is written with the transitioning service member in mind, but the concepts, tools, and exercises work for anyone. If you or someone you know is thinking about making a change, the ideas in this book are the things you need to investigate and remember to land that perfect job for your next career. Get your copy today!

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From Uniform to Uniform provides tips, exercises, and helps to military and others looking to transition from one career to another. Although focused on the difficulties in transitioning from military to civilian occupations, the outline applies to anyone wanting to discover the best way to find their next career and how to land that next job.

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“From Uniform to Uniform” coming soon!

From Uniform to Uniform: Transitioning from the Military to the Civilian Job Market

My new book is at the printer!  By next week you can buy it at in paperback or for Kindle.  Just $9.99 for the paperback and $6.99 on Kindle.

If you or someone you know is transitioning from the military, this handy book will help you get started on your journey.

First, thank you for your service! 

You’re ready to step out of your military uniform and back into real clothes and a new career.

Do you know where to start?

Do you even know what you want to do?  

Did you know every company has a uniform whether you recognize it or not? 

Do you know what language they speak?  It’s only a form of English, just like your military jargon is only a form of English.

I’ve been there and I know the battle you’re facing.  This little book can help you think through the process as you prepare for your transition to civilian life.  It isn’t rocket science, but it isn’t easy either.  In today’s market, few will hand you a job just because you are (were) a soldier, airman, sailor, marine, or coastee.  Businesses yesterday, today, and tomorrow must still make the bottom line.

Show them how you can help them do it.  

Watch here in the next couple of days for the release of the book.

Use it as your personal workbook to get figure out important steps before you hit the job market.  Learn how to write a résumé that human relations departments will read.  Find out how to approach an interview and what you need to know before you go to the interview.

Just a few more days and the book will hit the street.  $9.99 at for the paperback and $6.99 for Kindle.  Links will be available soon.

Six Steps to Take When You Feel Overwhelmed

The last week engaged my wife and I in quite an adventure. She had tickets to go to her childhood home and assist her parents who were having some medical issue. The day before her departure, she became violently ill and required emergency surgery. Thankfully, everything came out well and her recovery progresses well as expected.

The day after her surgery, I was scheduled for a spinal cord stimulator (SCS) trial to see if the device would reduce or eliminate back pain I’ve experienced for more than fifteen years. Both of us decided since she was recovering well, I should go ahead with the trial. So we enlisted my daughter to play taxi cab for me, and transport me to and from my outpatient surgery to implant the device for the trial.

All went well. . .I became a believer in the SCS the first day. Then I remembered I had promised to keep my grandkids for three days while my daughter participated in a conference in town. He husband travels often in his job and this week, of course, he traveled. She couldn’t opt out of the conference since she was one of the keynote speakers on the agenda. So. . . here comes a real test of my resilience, coping skills, and stress reduction techniques.

A lot goes on in our life every day. Some good, some bad, but it happens whether we want it to or not. Sometimes the events come because of our choices, sometimes they come because life happens. We can get through them, though, if we follow a six simple steps.

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1. Take things one at a time. Too often we look at the whole of what we face and get overwhelmed. All of the events that faced Carole and me last week looked impossible with rearranging travel, scheduling surgery, my SCS trial, keeping promises, taking care of my wife post-surgery, etc. How could I do it all not knowing whether this device with wires poking out of back would even work or not? What if it didn’t? How would we make it? So many questions! The answer is focus on things one at a time. The emergent issue was my wife’s surgery. This was life or death, had to get done, everything else could wait or be cancelled. I kept my calendar with me to make sure I could keep up with the next event and changed her travel plans while she was in pre-op. Done! Next issue. By looking at events one at a time, and putting a blinder up for the rest of them until the first one is under control, we can keep ourselves from being overwhelmed. My daughter got ready with a stand-by babysitter if I was unable to care for her children, but the SCS seemed to work well and would be a good test of it’s capabilities chasing three kids under the age of six, so I kept my promise. One event at a time, with contingencies set for the just in case issues.

2. Take a few deep breaths before getting lost in an emotional pit. We’ve heard the grand advice about counting to ten before talking when we are angry or upset. The same advice holds true when we find ourselves in what seems to be an overwhelming situation. Take a few deep breaths. Calm yourself. Understand this is not the end of the world and probably not as bad as it looks at first. Solutions are available and people are around to help. So before you crumble into a million pieces, close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and relax as much as you can.

3. Take inventory of issues. As in my story this last week, stop and make a list of everything going on. I keep a pretty detailed calendar to track events in my life. It’s a habit of mine from the early 1980’s because we never get time back. It just disappears and we only get to use the minutes we have once. So I’ve tracked appointments, requirements, events, to-do lists on a single calendar for over 30 years now. So when my wife became ill, it was easy for me to see what else would move to take care of her needs. It could see what could slide and what could not. I could see what was important and what was not. I could make immediate phone calls and cancel things that would interfere with focusing my attention on her.

4. Take inventory of assets. As I looked at the issues I faced last week, I also began to take inventory of the people around me I could call on to help. With smartphones, it’s easier to categorize and tag people into those special places. I can’t say I’ve done as good a job in my contacts as I should. With some 4,300 contacts, I have a lot of work to do to catch up on tagging and categorizing like I’d like to, but I’m in the process based on some work I’ve done with this program. However, if you’ve identified those with special skills, close friends, confidants, locations, etc., it’s not a hard process to find people quickly when you need some help.

stress, relief5. Make a preliminary action plan to resolve the issues as you see them. This step gets you out of the hair-on-fire mode and lets you see solutions. You may not know how to solve everything that’s facing you, but you probably know the next thing you can do in the situation. It might be as simple as making a call to a friend or 911 or a neighbor. But in most situations, you probably know the next step and probably the next several steps you should take in most situations. Stop and think about those steps. If you have a few extra minutes, you might even write them down so you don’t forget them. Your calendar is a great place to put those next steps.

6. Do something! This final step is probably the most important. Often when faced with what seems like overwhelming events, people freeze and do nothing adding to the stress, emotion, frustration, depression, etc. Just do something. It might be the wrong thing to do, but it will get you moving and wrong things can usually be corrected without much trouble. It’s much easier to turn a moving object than a stationery one. So just take that first step and get moving.

Everyone has a uniform, some just don’t recognize it.

As you’ve noticed, I’ve taken a short hiatus from writing on this blog post for the last several months. Partly because of health, partly because of other interests, partly because I got a little lazy on this one while continuing to populate a daily devotional on

Nevertheless, it’s time to get back to sharing thoughts about career planning, life planning, and how to gain margin in your life. So here we go…

Over the next several weeks, I’ll be finishing up an e-book or workbook (I’m not sure which yet, maybe both) that I think will benefit those leaving the service in particular, but anyone in general. Those of us who were told what to wear every day for years don’t quite understand that every job in the civilian sector carries similar requirements. I quickly found when I walked out the door of Army service, I faced a uniform requirement at my next place of business. But it was up to me to figure out the uniform instead of being told what the uniform of the day would entail.

Uniforms in the work place

Every day in the business I entered as a consultant, my bosses and my clients expected me to wear a coat and tie. Friday’s were dress down days with a sport coat and no tie… unless, of course, I had an appointment with a client. Then, it was coat and tie anyway. No one told me the uniform, but it took me about two seconds to look around the office and find everyone in the same outfit. Colors came in navy, charcoal gray, and black, but everyone looked about the same. The radicals wore colored or striped shirts!


 It would take showing up once or twice without a coat and I would find myself looking for another job. That’s just the way it was. Those of you in those kinds of jobs know exactly what I’m talking about. Some of you wear polo shirts or button shirts to work, maybe you ladies wear slacks and matching tops or suits, but you’ll probably agree that every company out there has a uniform to adhere to. From formal wear to shorts and tee-shirts, every industry and every company keeps its employees to a certain dress standard.

The same holds true of other company policies and procedures. Just as the military has its rules and regulations, every company has theirs. Sometimes, they come in formal bound tomes of required reading, exams to make sure you understand them, and refresher training to ensure everyone knows the ‘right’ way, the company way, to do things. Sometimes, it’s the boss telling you what she wants as an end product, but in the telling she gives a little advice on the boundaries of how to get the job done.

More similarities than differences

Things inside and outside the military have more similarities than differences when each step is broken down into its individual parts and each examined from a business perspective of getting to the end-state desired by the owners. People get hired and paid to accomplish individual tasks that together serve to accomplish the goals of the entity, whether business, non-profit, or government.

I find much more commonality that difference in the way things run, especially since the services now operate with all volunteer forces. Every member of every service chooses to serve, just as in every company of every industry, employees choose to serve. We might at times think our job traps us, but in truth, we all have the choice to leave and do something else. Most of us don’t have the desire or courage to do so, however. Or lack the confidence and understanding of how to make it without the current job we’re in and so we stay, unhappy with out plight, but afraid to do anything about it.

Also in a few weeks, I will start experimenting with podcasting from the perspective of finding a life coach, helping others find purpose and passion in their life, and balancing life to really live a happier and more fulfilling life.

If you have topics of interest you’d like to hear about, send them to me at and I’ll see about putting the topics into future blogs or podcasts. Stay tuned for more information in the near future.