Archive for September 2013

Reduce your stress with good hobbies

What are your hobbies?

We can’t do much about some of the stresses in our life. We may not have the ability to change jobs at the moment or change our boss, but we can do things that reduce the effect of the stresses. One such action is the adoption of healthy hobbies hobbiesthat you enjoy.

Hobbies can take on any shape and size as long as they remain fun, challenging, and remove you from the thoughts of everyday stress. A laundry list of possible hobbies is impossible, but some common ones include reading, sewing, running, flying model planes, other model building, bird watching, … The list is endless and what may be a job for someone else, may be a hobby for you. The key is in the attitude and mindset you have toward the activities.

Hobbies take your mind off of the unpleasant stresses in life and give you a short reprieve while engaged in them. They let you reset your attitude and relax with something you enjoy. Hobbies change the course of the day and let you release the toxic emotions that build in stressful situations. Use them to do just that.

One important caution with hobbies. Don’t let them become income generators or income drains. Hobbies, too, must be kept in balance or they can begin to add to your stress. Inexpensive hobbies about, take advantage of those. If you do have a hobby that is expensive, set aside a given amount of money you will devote to it and stop at that point. Don’t let finances become another point of stress because of your hobbies.

The second point, don’t let them become income generators means don’t let your hobby become your primary source of income. It’s okay to make a few dollars here and there from your hobby, but when it becomes your primary income, it is no longer a hobby, it is a job. When that happens, the thing you used to release the stress in your life, suddenly becomes another source of stress because now you HAVE to get things done to make an income. Keep your hobby as a hobby unless you can replace it with something just as enjoyable.

You’ll never stop the stress in your life, but you can change your attitude and responses toward it. Pick up a hobby and enjoy a few minutes a day to just relax in what you like to do best.


Stress Relief by Using Square Breathing

The company goes through yet another downsizing and your job might be one of them. The cost of food and gas climbs. The kids need shoes for school. The mortgage is past due. The older kids called to tell you they’re moving back home because they can’t find a job. The doctor left an urgent message to call back. The everyday pressures of life can get overwhelming if you don’t have a plan and practice to deal with them.

Regardless the source of stress, we know it can be damaging to both your mental and physical health. Everyone needs a way to blow off the steam that everyday activities create in the pressure cooker world we live in. Keeping the stress levels on high for too long will make you blow your gaskets in more ways than one. So how do we handle stress effectively?

For some people, the answer to stress relief is their hobby. They may head to the golf course and whack golf balls until the pressure of the day disappears. Some choose painting or reading or a million other distracters to help take away the tension and run down feeling that overwhelming stress brings. Often people try to just live through it and hope relief will come soon. Perhaps its just getting away from the object that brings on the stress is the right answer for some.

The bad news is that stress will continue to be part of everyone’s life. We can’t get away from it. Some things will always set us on edge because of the realities of life. The good news is that there are ways to handle stress with some relatively simple techniques. The generator for stress may not change, but the way you handle the situation, event, person, or whatever causes the stress can make a world of difference in your mental and physical outcome.

One easy way to reduce the effects of stress in the moment is to use “square breathing.” Square breathing is a simple means of clearing your head, relaxing the body, and finding some relief from the events of the moment. Here’s the technique you can try for yourself. Breathe in slowly counting to four. Hold that breath counting to four. Breathe out counting to four. Hold your exhale for another count of four. Then repeat the process four or five times.

By concentrating on slowing your breathing down just a little, focusing on your breathing instead of the immediate problem, and getting increased oxygen into your brain, you can ease the tension you’re feeling in the moment. It won’t change the situation. It won’t be a cure-all. But it can help you in a crisis moment and help reduce the immediate stress reaction.

If you want to learn more about stress relief, coping skills, and resilience, call me at (210) 854-3978.




Frustrated with Work? Find Your Life Purpose

frustationAre you frustrated with your job? Can’t stand to do the same old thing another day?

If that describes you, it might not be the job that bothers you, but the way you look at the job and the world around you. I’m not saying that every job is perfect and you should stay in your current position for the rest of your life, but sometimes we lose sight of why we took the job in the first place. We get so wrapped up in the hum-drum every day cycle of routine actions that we forget what the tasks are about.

That’s the importance of discovering your life purpose. Knowing why you are you and understanding your purpose can bring enjoyment to almost every situation.

Finish two sentences to make a huge difference in how you view everything around you. First, my life purpose is (fill in the blank). Second, I fulfill my purpose by (fill in the blank).

You will be amazed at the variety of things you can do and where you can do them to fulfill your life purpose. You will probably find that you can fulfill at least part of your life purpose in the position you hold right now. Can you fulfill your purpose better in another position? Maybe, but first look at how you can live out your purpose just by taking a different view of how and why you work where you do. Something pulled you there in the first place. Something enticed you to seek out and accept the position.

Discover your purpose and you look at life in a new way. Find why you exist and you’ll begin to work through every avenue of life with your purpose in mind. Fulfilling your purpose brings joy to the most mundane tasks when you know your direction in life is not dictated by others, but a mission unique to you.

So how do you discover your life purpose and create plans to fulfill it? Pour all your skills, talents, desires, experiences, and even your weaknesses together in a pile. Top with your values and the legacy you want to leave. It won’t take long before your life purpose comes out of the mix.

Need some help with discovering your life purpose? Give me a call today for a free session.